I could just spit nails.
I'm a member of the L Word Message Boards (yeah yeah yeah, I know; just call me a male lesbian) and I have some fun reading and posting to everyone's threads.
Today, however, another member created a thread suggesting that we transgendered brainwashed ourselves into wanting something different, and that we should have just accepted what we were given.
Now, I always have to remind myself to try and not be offended when people think that I should have ignored what's in my head even though it in no way matches the shell I was born into.
I accept my gender because it's male. What I did not accept was my sex. There's an enormous difference between gender and sex, especially if the two differ. Gender is what's between your ears; sex is what's between your legs.
Why would someone suggest that I put up with it and be miserable every fucking day of my life? I have every right to be happy, too. And how on earth could they even suggest that I brainwashed myself? Guys like me don't just wake up one day and say, "You know, I think I'll be a man now." We live this every day from the time we're little kids -- we just didn't know why we felt "wrong" when we were little because we didn't understand how these things work, and we certainly didn't know the words to express them.
I am insulted and offended. I get used to being called "freak" by ignorant assholes, but I never thought that someone in the community would suggest that I had brainwashed myself and should have just accepted the shitty hand I was dealt.
But that's just me.
Excuse me while I toss my brain in the dryer.
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to be honest, i stopped being surprised by peoples close-mindedness a long time ago. people who should understand where you're coming from just often have their own sets of prejudices.
but i think our ability to make choices is there for a reason. we can choose what we want to make us happy.
I lived in Thailand for a while and it's amazing that their culture is so open to the transgendered community. They even have a special status there. I think the western world generally has to play catch-up with a lot of stuff.
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